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Are
You Suffering From Impostor Syndrome?
You’re
smart and successful, so why do you sometimes feel like a
failure?
Tuesday August 16th 2005
By Lucy Bowen
Did you
just get a promotion, a pay rise or even a completely new
job but you’re beset by fears that you’re not quite up to
it? It may be that you have ‘impostor syndrome’, a term
coined by clinical psychologist Dr Pauline Clance to
describe doubt in your own abilities and a fear of not
maintaining your success. Here are some ways to beat those
insecurities:
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If you
get a promotion, do you think, “there can’t have been many
people to choose from”. Dr Valerie Young, who runs ‘impostor
syndrome’ workshops, explains: “Although you should see the
the promotion as a vote of confidence, you convince yourself
it is anything but that.”
As a
solution, she suggests putting yourself in the shoes of the
people promoting you. They’re not going to do it unless they
think you’re up to it. After all, their reputation depends
on it too.
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When
you’re awarded a pay rise, do you think, ‘I don’t deserve it
there must be a mistake’. If so, “you must take control of
your negative mindset immediately,” says life coach Fiona Harrold, author of Indestructible Self-Belief (Piatkus
Books). “If you allow your self-doubt to run riot, you’ll
undermine yourself and your employer will start to wonder
why they did give you that rise. Sit down and think of
compelling reasons why you’re worth every extra penny.
Justify it to yourself and recognise how valuable you are to
the organisation.”
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You’re
asked to lead a crucial project but you think to yourself
that you’re going to mess it up. Dr Clance says you should
make choices based on what gives you a sense of fulfillment,
not fear. You don’t want to take on an impossible task as
that will just reinforce your feelings of inadequacy. Also,
there’s no harm in asking for help.
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Your
boss leaves and you’re in line for her job. Your first fear
might be will I be able to cope? Your second one will be
wondering about your former colleagues, who might be
jealous, or worse, not respect you.
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Every time
you step into a new role it will take a few months to find
your feet, says Dr Young. Whether the move will generate
jealousy or not depends on your current reputation and
rapport with other staff members. Although you may become
your colleagues’ superior, make sure you are inclusive and
maintain good relationships with them all.
Answer the
following questions to discover whether you have the
impostor syndrome:
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Do you
secretly worry that others will find out you’re not as
bright and capable as they think you are?
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Do you
sometimes shy away from challenges because of nagging
self-doubt?
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Do you
tend to chalk up your accomplishments to being a ‘fluke’,
‘no big deal’ or the fact that people just ‘like’ you?
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Do you
hate making a mistake, being less than fully prepared or not
doing things perfectly?
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Do you
tend to feel crushed by even constructive criticism, seeing
it as evidence of your ‘ineptness’?
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Do you
believe that other people are smarter and more capable than
you are?
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Do you live in fear of being found out, discovered,
unmasked?
If you said yes to any of the above - join the club. We’ve
all been there.
©
Irish Independent http://www.unison.ie/irish_independent/ &
http://www.unison.ie/
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Women in
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University of Texas at Austin
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